How long should a man stay away from his family?

How long can a married woman live without her husband? If the man has four wives, he will spend only twenty five percent of his time with her, but what about the woman whose Tableeghi Jamaat husband stays away for long periods lasting (in some cases) upto a year? Will she not feel bad that her husband is not around to share her problems? Will her children grow up to be normal individuals? I doubt it.

One of my wife’s brothers used to work abroad, and would only come home twice a year to be with his family. Both his sons were brainwashed into joining the Tableeghi Jamaat, and since they’re absolutely unemployable, they do nothing but spend long hours in the nearby mosque talking to men like themselves who also have nothing to do. And every now and then, they join other Tableeghi Jamaat members and go on countrywide tours telling villagers how to wash their private parts. Their poor father has to pay the expenses of both his daughters-in-law and his grandchildren as well. I wonder how they will survive after he’s dead.


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43 responses to “How long should a man stay away from his family?”

  1. Mohammad Yusha Avatar

    @Ayub: Tableeghi Jamaat people are not wahhabi. Wahhabis consist mostly of Arabs. The negative traits that Shakir, Momina and I have stated about Tablighees are true, but it is also true that they are responsible for spreading a lot of Islam, and a lot of people’s lives have changed. Just look at the Pakistani cricket team. From a bunch of alcoholics, they turned religious, and not only that, Yousuf Yohanna accepted Islam and became Mohammad Yousuf.

    @Momina: I am just curious in knowing what hadith Tablighees have invented.

  2. Lt. General Ayub Khan Avatar
    Lt. General Ayub Khan

    tableeghy jamaat are a bunch of wahhaby losers….

    its a loser organization with loser, vagabound, lazy un-employed unproductive retards who just loaf around reciting verses which they were never taught to understand the meaning of

    if this story is reflective of society, then I hope MORE fathers spend time with their kids!!!!!

  3. Irfan Avatar
    Irfan

    I agree, that what Tablighi or other people who stay abroad for a longer duration away from their families are not doing a right thing.
    But my concern is that why should be be so concerned about others,why shouldn’t we ask ourselves a question are we fulfilling all our duties as per the teachings of Quran?If the answer is “yes”,then we should start worrying about others,and if the answer is “No” then i think we first need to put our self/deeds in order,and stop worrying about others.
    My aim is not to offend anyone,through these comments.But charity begins at home.

  4. Mohammad Yusha Avatar

    Why should Imam Malik or any other Imam say something about it? It was probably obvious to them that it had been due to a reason. It is next to impossible to save the body and/or clothes from urine drops while urinating standing up. All Prophets and the Sahabah urinated sitting down.

  5. Shakir Lakhani Avatar

    Yusha: “Abdullah ibn Umar may have had a problem or he simply urinated standing up….”. This is your own explanation, but it doesn’t hold water! If it had been so, Imam Malik would have said something about it.

  6. Mohammad Yusha Avatar

    In Islam, a person is excused if it is due to an emergency. A person may urinate standing up due to a disease or some other problem.

    Abdullah ibn Umar may have had a problem or he simply urinated standing up to show others that Islam is flexible (ie. in a case of need, a person may urinate standing up)

  7. Shakir Lakhani Avatar

    @ Mr. Yusha: I was able to find this one, I’ll look for others later:

    Al-Muwatta Hadith
    Hadith 2.114
    Urinating Standing and Otherwise
    Yahya related to me from Malik that Abdullah ibn Dinar said, “I saw Abdullah ibn Umar urinating while standing.”
    Yahya said that Malik was asked if any hadith had come down about washing the private parts of urine and faeces and he said, “I have heard that some of those who have passed away used to wash themselves of faeces. I like to wash my private parts of urine.”

  8. Mohammad Yusha Avatar

    Momina: I’m glad that is what you meant. 🙂 You are free to correct me too. I will only appreciate it, as I am eager to improve. 🙂

    @Kashif: Shakir does not engage anyone. When I start commentating, everyone does. I will not have time in the coming days so I will take a break, and then you will see just how much Shakir will be able to engage people.

    Shakir: Your blatant lies about religious people urinating standing up are something no one will buy.

  9. Kashif H Avatar
    Kashif H

    Very amusing write up by Shakir sb to engage the scribes here:P a job well done! (as usual):))

  10. Momina Avatar

    Lol…yes that was exactly what i meant.
    Correction: As for urinating while You mean while sitting down: it is a Sunnah.

    What I found amusing is that you can be an excellent teacher with respect to your skilled of correcting others :). Honestly this way one will be more present-minded while writing.

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