TV, Furniture, Washing Machine, Fridge and a Car – All in Dowry

Dowry isn’t just cash that devils accept from the parents of the girl. Dowry includes all those things I have mentioned in the title among others. There will always be devils in the world, there have always been. However, is it necessary for fathers to marry their daughters to devils who ask for Dowry? Isn’t it obvious that they are not human beings. People who show this level of greediness before marriage will actually make life hell for the girl after. Isn’t this obvious?

One thing is that if all fathers refused to give one paisa in Dowry, let alone a Car, T.V. etc. Don’t marry your daughter to an animal who cannot see anything beyond money. If he is a human being, he will refuse to accept Dowry.

Girls should refuse to marry such freaks who’s parents ask for money or even refuse to accept it even if they haven’t asked. I am asking girls all over India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Sri Lanka to take a step and fight against this menace. Girls are not the timid, shy people they used to be. Girls can make a difference.

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January 26, 2009

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Mohammad Yusha

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24 responses to “TV, Furniture, Washing Machine, Fridge and a Car – All in Dowry”

Shakir Lakhani

February 21, 2010

Hend: re. Tiger Memon: he’s not related to me and neither is there any proof of his being in Pakistan. although I’ve heard of Dawood Ibrahim living in Karachi (and I’ve never met him either). If India wants him back, all it has to do is to ask Interpol to arrest him. By the way, there are some people once wanted by Pakistan who’ve taken shelter in the U.K. (one of them has even been made a U.K. citizen). However, since these guys belong to a party which was allied to Musharraf and now to Zardari, they are no longer wanted by the government (although there are murder cases against them). I know that even in India many Lok Sabha members are facing criminal and murder charges, yet they get elected.

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Hend

February 20, 2010

what is your opinion on pakistan granting refuge to tiger memon. should he be given nishan e pakistan?

why would you be violent? are my questions making you uncomfortable?

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Shakir Lakhani

February 20, 2010

Hend: re. Tiger Memon: the word “Memon” is now generically applied to describe any Muslim whose mother tongue is Gujrati or Memoni (a hybrid of Sindhi and Kutchi). Originally it meant Sunni (Hanafi) Muslims who spoke Gujrati/Memoni and were descended from Sindhi Lohanas. By the way, Memons are remarkably peaceful, which makes me doubt that Tiger Memon is really a Memon (there are Muslims from Gujrat who have adopted Urdu or Hindi as their mother tongues and who call themselves Memons. Javed Miandad, for instance, is not a Memon, but he is thought to be one). Of course, sometimes even Memons turn violent (as I would, if I ever came across you on a dark night!).

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Hend

February 20, 2010

all memons are related to each other. how close is tiger memon related to your family can you please reveal. he must be an eminent respectable person in your functions.

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Shakir Lakhani

February 19, 2010

Hend: among certain Pathans and Baloch it’s the other way around. In those ethnic groups boys are predominant, and it’s the boys’ families who have to give dowry to the brides’ families. I once had a Baloch welder who had to go and work in Saudi Arabia for two years so he could save enough to pay his fiancee’s father before his marriage.

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Hend

February 19, 2010

shakir

is tiger memon closely related to you?

spratt

fyi, tiger memon is not like tiger woods, this guy was involved in serial bomblast killing thousands in mumbai in 1993 and then was sheltered by pakistan when he ran there.

sana

the great religion of islam forbids the practice of dowry. the memons are probably following an ancient materialisting greedy and ‘hindu’ (shakir :)) practice. please refuse to give dowry if you are a true muslim

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Shakir Lakhani

February 19, 2010

Sana Ahmed: it depends on the kind of Memon you’re marrying. If his family members are educated (they must be, since they’re not opposing his marriage to an “outsider”), they won’t ask for anything. I would like to add here that this practice of demanding apartments and cars and other things was once prevalent only among Memon families who originally belonged to Bantva (Gujrat, India), but now practically every rich man in every Memon community has to give away a lot to his daughter’s in-laws (mainly because the number of Memon girls is much higher than the number of Memon boys). I’d like to conclude by wishing you a very happy married life!

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Sana Ahmed

February 19, 2010

@ Mr. Shakir Lakhani: I will soon be getting married in the memon community. Do you think it will be appropriate for me to take up a stand and say no to dowry? Do u think it will create any difficulties for me in the future? I have always been against this menace but my parents are of the opinion and are forcing me to accept watever they give me cox they feel tht watever is theirs belongs to their children. We are having a love marriage and so i am more concerned abt my future in my susral. Wat do u suggest?

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Shakir Lakhani

December 6, 2009

@ James: in my community (the Memons), there are people who give away apartments (and sometimes even bungalows or town houses) as dowry. The reason is that the male:female ratio among my people is in favour of males. Of course, the men can take more wives to adjust the balance, but this is not done (maybe because the man cannot afford to support two wives, or perhaps because the first wife doesn’t want him to take another wife). I have observed that (as in my case), a Memon invariably has more daughters than sons (i’m the father of two daughters and one son).

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James Killian Spratt

December 5, 2009

Hi, Mr. Yusha: It is traditional in the US that the bride’s father pay for the wedding, which is usually all the dowry that changes hands, besides wedding gifts and parental assistance as is agreeable. Ha-ha, one fellow I know well has a daughter who is marrying. He asked his daughter “How much will the wedding cost? I’ll pay that much.” And his daughter says, “How much can you spend? (Meaning-give me all you can spare, we’ll have the cheapest wedding I can find, and I’ll keep the rest.)

As we say, the apple didn’t fall far from the tree. (Parent and child just alike. This is mostly a battle of wills between Dad and daughter.)

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