Love Marriage vs Arrange Marriage

Is love marriage stronger than arrange marriage? this is the question which mostly puzzles the youth. Marriage is a relationship, which binds not only two souls together but also connects the two families. Love marriage has always been considered as the source of strong relation and satisfaction among spouses. The basic pillar of love marriage is the mental compatibility between the two individuals, making them closer to one another. However, Arrange marriages have always been considered most successful and strong. The biggest merit of Arrange marriage is that love simply develops in the relation with the passage of time.

However, if we look at the demerits of both, we can simply observe that in love marriage, the best part of life is before marriage; and after marriage things suddenly change and “love” wipes out of the love marriage, making it just “marriage”. The biggest disadvantage of love marriage is that even after the marriage, couples do not consider that they have now married; they simply do not recognize their responsibilities after marriage and want to live the life of the lovers only, they feel it difficult to comprehend that their roles have been changed from lovers to husband and wife, they still expect the same from each other without realizing the reality, and this becomes the root of their problems. If we look at the problems of Arrange marriage, it has been observed that the biggest source of tension between the couples is that they do not feel the mental compatibility with their spouses. Even after the long span of time, they fail to recognize the likes and dislikes of each other and expectation gap simply widens.

Whether we do love marriage or arrange but we should always pray to ALLAH that HE must make our marriage the most successful in the every aspect.


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12 responses to “Love Marriage vs Arrange Marriage”

  1. goraya Avatar
    goraya

    Arranged marriages are successful because couples doing arranged marriages are very realistic and compromising.

    While couples doing Love marriages are idealistic… and mostly they are never satisfied.. because no one is perfect..

    It is very simple..

    So my advice is to avoid partner who is looking for Love of his/her life…….:-)

  2. yousaf Avatar
    yousaf

    if both families are agree then love marrige is better than arrange

  3. m.zeeshan saeed Avatar
    m.zeeshan saeed

    i thnk so that both marriage r better if both compromise in all thngs

  4. muhammad abbas bukhari Avatar
    muhammad abbas bukhari

    ohh really great…… ALLAH almighty will bless us with all charms of life

  5. mariya khan Avatar

    ohhhh…. i think dis is a vry intresting topic to talk over….well the joke sended by Mohammad yusha was mind blowing i loved it and had copied to tell this story to ma friends to…but whtever da writter has written is true i think both marriages have some good n some bad aspects…alll we should do is to pray to ALLAH to guide us to rite path (ameen)

  6. Umar Avatar
    Umar

    That is Excellent ! Thanks for the short but extremely brief detail you gave 🙂

    May Allah Guide Us to the right Path
    Ameen

  7. Shakir Lakhani Avatar

    This is an old one. A more recent joke is the one about the son of a very rich man who tells his girl friend that after his father dies, he (the son) will inherit all his wealth. The girl friend then met the father and persuaded him to marry her. Soon the father died, but the son didn’t get anything, his father had left everything to his young wife.

  8. Mohammad Yusha Avatar
    Mohammad Yusha

    Two men, one American and an Indian were sitting in a bar drinking shot after shot.

    The Indian man said to the American,”You know my parents are forcing me to get married to this so called girl from a village whom I haven’t even met once.We call this arranged marriage.I don’t want to marry a woman whom I don’t love…I told them that openly and now have a hell lot of family problems.”

    The American said, “Talking about love marriages…I’ll tell you my story.

    I married a widow whom I deeply loved and dated for 3 years.
    “After a couple of years, my father fell in love with my
    step-daughter and so my father became my son-in-law and I became my father’s father-in-law.My daughter is my mother and my wife my grandmother. More problems occurred when I had a son. My son is my father’s brother and so he my uncle. Situations turned worse when my father had a son. Now my father’s son i.e. my brother is my grandson.
    Ultimately, I have become my own grand father and I am my owngrandson.
    And you say you have family problems..

  9. Haris Avatar
    Haris

    I think this is a good definition of the problems faced by individuals in Love and Arrange marriage but things are not that simple.
    We can not say that Love marriage or Arrange marriage is successful just because they are love or arrange.
    Relationships are becoming more and more complex. I believe that we should give ourself some time before committing with someone else. We should see that whether we can live with the other person happily and not only we but does this relationship is feasible for the other party also?

    I strongly believe that if people consider other party’s expectation along with their expectations from the relationship and then decide. In this way they can easily live a happy life.

  10. Shakir Lakhani Avatar

    I wonder why the writer chose this subject to write about. Even in India, 95% of all mmarriages are arranged because males and females are not allowed to mix. And it’s not true that in arranged marriages, love develops after marriage. Not all married men and women are happy, because of the stresses of married life. It requires a great deal of patience and maturity to make a marriage work. Although outsiders may think an arranged-marriage couple is happy, in reality they may hate each other without letting others know about it. Has anyone ever compiled statsitics on how many love marriages and how many arranged marriages end up in divorce? Without such data, it is useless to talk about the subject.

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