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Love Marriage – A different angle

The girl and the boy have spent time with each other before marriage – have been on dates, movies, or at least spent some time to know each other – even then they fail to grasp the necessary knowledge of each other because both of them behave in the best way they can in front of the other as they are afraid that any wrong move or any wrong word would break their trust and also the relation that is about to happen. The guy spends more time with the girl, fulfills all her wishes and does everything to keep her happy – all this just to make her accept his marriage proposal. Then they get married.

The guy has her now, so he stops doing all the things he used to do before their marriage. Now he spends less time with her and more with his friends and work and pays her little attention. She says “you have changed since our marriage.” Who on this planet has not heard of this.

They have already known each other. Now that they are married they don’t get much to talk to each other about themselves. The guy will already have praised the girl to the limit and the girl already admired him to her satisfaction.

They both have already spent time romancing, playing, teasing and having fun with each other. What do they do now?

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25 responses to “Love Marriage – A different angle”

  1. Shakir Lakhani Avatar
    Shakir Lakhani

    Now you’re talking about birth control, which is a totally different subject. Just tell me, how can men know anything about their wives when they’re not even allowed to see each other by people who have your mindset? How can a man know if he will be able to live with his future wife if he doesn’t even know her opinions on subjects which are dear to his heart? The only way to solve this problem is to allow boys and girls to meet many times, and if you are horrified at this thought, they can be accompanied by sisters or brothers when the two are meeting or talking.

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  2. Mohammad Yusha Avatar
    Mohammad Yusha

    the problem is you keep giving examples of what happens in rural areas. the world is not restricted to these areas.

    yes, women should not be thought of as baby producing machines. You are absolutely correct. Also, some retarded mullahs give fatwas that condoms are haram. In fact, i myself have asked great honourable muftis and they said condoms ARE ALLOWED in Islam.

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  3. Shakir Lakhani Avatar
    Shakir Lakhani

    I don’t see how they can get to know each other before marriage when the girls in your society are practically 100%secluded. If you want boys and girls to know each other so that they can select their own spouses, you have to let them mix. But this is the kind of thing which gives mullahs heart attacks. In any case, girls in the rural areas don’t have much of a choice, do they? In most areas, they’re married off (usually to cousins) the minute they attain puberty, usually at the age of twelve (in some cases even earlier). And their marriages have no meaning, since they’re baby-producing machines to whom no one listens.

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  4. Mohammad Yusha Avatar
    Mohammad Yusha

    people must definitely get to know each other before marriage and who do you know better than your cousins.

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  5. Mohammad Yusha Avatar
    Mohammad Yusha

    By reading this post no one should think that im in favour of those kinds of retarded marriages where a man and a woman have not even seen each others face. All im saying is before marriage they must get to know each other but save the romance for later.

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  6. Shakir Lakhani Avatar
    Shakir Lakhani

    I was merely ridiculing you, when you implied that the couple gets bored soon after marriage. You’re the one who is against love marriage, not I. By the way, did you buy some books on psychology to know about marriage and what people are supposed to do after they find they’re bored with life after marriage?

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  7. Mohammad Yusha Avatar
    Mohammad Yusha

    you are an expert in twisting and changing information to suit your needs and your arguments. In your first reply you said they get bored in 1 year. then you admitted that it has in your case lasted for 34 years and is still going strong. Maybe you can tell your marriage story to those psychologists and tell them to get a life.

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  8. Shakir Lakhani Avatar
    Shakir Lakhani

    Wrong, Nikki, I’ve been married for 34 years, and still enjoy being with my wife. It depends on you, if you’re the type who thinks enjoyment of life is a great sin, and that one should always have a mournful expression on one’s face (like that on those who always think about life after death), then you can bet you’ll never be able to have a healthy married life.

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  9. Nikki Avatar
    Nikki

    Even if its Arranged the truth is the Charm hardly stays around for like MAx 5 years.

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  10. Shakir Lakhani Avatar
    Shakir Lakhani

    Now they can raise their children together, they can watch TV together and they can have sex together! You don’t seem to know much about married life. This is the way it is throughout the world. According to your peculiar way of thinking, even those who do not see each other before marriage will get sick of each other after a year or so. You need to read some books on psychology.

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