Haya- The Invaluable Gem of a Muslim Lady

Haya (modesty and a sense of shame) is a fundamental characteristic of the noble and a sign of high standards and Iman. This feeling is evident in the eye and affects the features. The best of Allah’s servants has said about it, “Al haya khairun kulluh.” (Muslim). Meaning that “Haya is all good.”

These days haya has become a taboo subject. Let alone having a slight affect upon Muslim women, the caller to haya is considered backward and unprogressive. This is due to the vicious impressions made by the enemies of Allah and of the Muslims woman so that she would lose her dignity and honor that Islam has bestowed upon her.

The western trends have so hypnotized the Muslim woman that she would follow it even if it leads her to the snake’s snare. Why is that so? Ponder over this however long; you would come to the evident conclusion that it is a stark indication of the weakness of religion in her.

The Muslim woman has been so influenced that we see her dressed in such clothes that are equivalent to being undressed. We see seduction in clothing, looks, the way she carries herself and the way she glances…do we want our daughters and sisters to be like this. The answer would be a loud NO. The heart cannot accept such a vision of their loved ones, but the eye is turned blind on reality. That is what is happening. The extent to which this matter grieves me cannot be explained in mere words. Unknowingly, many Muslim women are following the deviated path and happily entering the spider’s web. It is my sincere plea to every Muslim sister and brother to guide and advise your sister in faith. She needs direction with care.

What I am saying has been said by many before me. You might have heard it a number of times, but I pray to Allah to put effect in my words. Think over them carefully. Allah (SWT) has created upon you a pure nature. Let it remain pure. Protect it from the pollution of evil of the world. Take care of it. It is an Amaanat of Allah with you.

Allah (SWT) has given the Muslims woman a very high, honorable, dignified and revered position. It is this that is a thorn in the tranquility of the enemies of Allah. They have been trying their best to uproot the honour Allah has bestowed upon her. Are we so weak to bend to their maneuverings? No! We are strong enough to resist all evil temptations. How much will power does it require? Our love for our religion is way stronger than these silly temptations, insha’Allah.

We should be cautious of their efforts. We should tread on water, as they would come through that door of your house where the latch is weak. We see how well presented their advertisements are that easily influence the weak mind. Always the same terms used, ‘Move with the times’, ‘be a part of the civilized society’, ‘we need modernisation’. Are the principles of a civlised and modern society shedding of clothes and seduction? If that is the case then the most civilized society of the world resides in the jungles of Amazon.

The moral character, virtue , pride and honor of the Muslim woman is invaluable. That is what they envy. They want the Muslim woman to be despicable, disgraced and disregarded in the society.

Tell in what way is exposing oneself honorable and a sign of progress? We would hear statements like, ‘hijab should be of the heart…’ I fail to understand why doesn’t the mind question the stupidity of this statement. Surely, there is hijaab of the heart, i.e. the belief and its acceptance of hijaab. The acceptance is seen in the appearance of the person. The heart is already covered. There is no person, no matter how moral less the person is, to have his or her heart visible to the world.

‘’Do not make a display like the display of those previous to Islam (in ignorance).’[Al-Ahzaab: 33]

The practice of the enemies of Allah is not one of progress but is reverting one back to the days of ignorance. It is the nature of woman to have haya. And the Muslim woman is the metaphor of haya. The weakness of iman results in the weakening and eventual disappearance of modesty. This leads to the loss of her nature. Just think about that!

Does a logical mind respect that woman who reveals almost all her parts, and these days in private parts? Animals seem to have more respect than such human beings, as they at least have fur etc., to cover parts of their bodies. Is that what human ‘civilisation’ has come to?

The Prophet (s.a.w.w.) has said, “There are two types of people in Hellfire among them are women who are clothed yet naked, astray, tempting and whose hair is piled upon their heads like the humps of camels. They will neither enter the Paradise nor even smell its fragrance.” [Muslim]

Hold on to tight Habl-Allah and that is the Holy Book of Allah (SWT) and the Sunnah of the messenger of Allah (s.a.w.w.). That’s your shield against all evils. Be proud of your religion, your religion is the sole Truth.

19 thoughts on “Haya- The Invaluable Gem of a Muslim Lady”

  1. Haya as rightly brought out is a natural instinct, but Islam refined this concept it to its perfection.There is a saying of our beloved Prophet(peace be upon him) Narrated by Abu Huraira:
    The Prophet said, “Faith (Belief) consists of more than sixty branches (i.e. parts). And Haya (This term “Haya” covers a large number of concepts which are to be taken together; amongst them are self respect, modesty, bashfulness, and scruple, etc.) is a part of faith.”
    Indeed the grooming of kids begin at home and that too from the childhood once parents discourage their young ones,from moving out undressed,lowering their gaze once some obscene scene comes on TV,which is quite usual now a days.
    But unfortunately with every passing day although we are excelling and improving the standard of our education in Schools but the grooming aspect is badly lacking in our society.Now a days parents do not have time to groom their children,they think that’s its also the job of their school teachers to groom them.The unit of a society is home.Therefore,the responsibility lies with the Parents to groom their children,but till the time everyone will not deliver his part,the society as a whole cannot be transformed.

  2. Haya and many other civilised human instincts are natural but the environment also plays a vital role to it.

    It is the environment that we are brought up in that nurtures our instincts. If most of the westerners were brought up in a correct Islamic environment they would be acting very differently from what they are. a female, Muslim child while growing up would notice how her mum behaves. She would follow her way. This is an example, there could be many relatives and friends affecting the child’s upbringing.

    That is the basic development of haya. Some people have a greater sense of it. Again I will say the environment also plays a big role in it. The youngest of the family is always the most pampered one and does not hesitate to place his/her demands. Whereas the older one would hesitate in demanding anything, not because he/she is not loved or does not expect the parents would listen to their demands but position in family also has some effect on a person’s behaviour. The older ones are usually more shy than the youngest one.

    This is just an example. I feel modesty can be developed just like any other trait of a person. One other example could be that of some converts. Some of the sisters that I know have said that before accepting Islam they feel they had no sense of haya. However, after accepting Islam and learning about and following its principles, haya came to them naturally.

    As for the case in Afghanistan, it was most of the Hazaras, Uzbeks, and even the Tajiks who abandoned the hijaab. 99% of Pukhtuns in Afghanistan still adhere to this religious practice. Again the the difference in upbringing.

    Afghanistan followed an Islamic system, the hijaab is part of that system. Muslims give respect to women.

  3. Haya is taught by sane ppl belonging to civilized society whose epitomy is Islamic codes or dressing and morals. I endorse the fact that haya nust be taught and made to follow after logical convincing the pupil. Lest its a monsterous failure and decadent society root cause.

  4. I believe that it is an inner feeling. Lets say a girl sees other girls dressing up in skimpy clothing. Now a girl who feels haya will not going to copy it whereas another without haya will. Even in the West, I often see girls pulling their skirts down and their tops up (I wonder why they chose to wear a skirt so short and a top revealing cleavage if they are uncomfortable, or in other words, feeling haya)

    There are many girls who are taught haya. These girls wear decent clothes but they wear make up, stare at other men and talk to them. Some of them have sex before and outside of marriage. Where is haya?

    Simply forcing a women in a burka or forcing her to cover up is also not going to instill her with haya. Taliban forced women to wear a burka, but the moment their govt was destroyed the burkas came off. Enough proof that force doesn’t work.

    Also, please do let me know what pains Islam took concerning haya.

    (Once again I want to repeat that I am not judging anyone, in case someone misinterprets my comments. Many girls who wear skimpy clothing are great human beings and the size of the clothes is not the sole criteria for entering heaven.)

  5. Islam would not have taken great pains if HAYA was a natural instinctual feeling. That my opinion sir! Its a learned behavior and not innate.

  6. >Haya and modesty MUST be taught at home and in schools.

    @Kashif: Haya is an inner feeeling. It cannot be taught.

    @Ayub: I just wanted to express my surprise at girls not feeling embarassed in skimpy clothing in front of their male family members. However, I am not judging. Some of those girls are great human beings and the size of the clothes in not the sole criteria for entering heaven.


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