Art of being wonderful parents

In the last 10 years a large number of women have made their ways to corporate environment and started their working lives, this has brought positive as well as negative impact on not only their own lives but also on the lives of those connected to them, especially their children. Bond among parents and children is getting weaker and it has been observed that since both the parents are working, generation gap is increasing. Now parents usually do not have proper time to pay attention towards their children.

Following are some tips of becoming considerate parents:

– Never quarrel in the front of children, as it shatters their confidence and they stop sharing their problems since they observe that their parents are even unable to resolve their own problems.
– Never shout on any one in the front of them.
– Give them proper attention and ask them what they do in school on daily basis.
– Take interest in the problems of your children and listen them carefully.
– Always attend parents-teacher meeting and ask teachers about the behavior of child in the school.
– Never criticize them or scold them in the front of anyone, having any problem with their behavior, discuss with them in the soft tone.
– Always appreciate them on their achievements and in their failures, be their strength.
– Avoid the biased attitude among children and give all of them equal time and attention.
– Let them be what they want to be in their lives and never force them to adopt the profession of your choice.
– Keep an eye on their company and the matters of their interest, in order to prevent them from being involved in bad company.
– Maintain the relation of trust and confidence with them and make them realize that you will help them most in any situation whether good or bad and where possible prove it also, so that they do not hide any thing from you.
– Always let them complete their discussion, never start shouting or scolding before having the complete knowledge of the matter.
– Never show them that you do not believe them, in order to get confirmation on any matter, do not confirm anything in the front of them and if your child is lying to you, simply tell him/her that you know the whole scenario and they can not hide anything from you, make them realize that you are the one who is able to solve their problems so there is no point of lying.


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  1. Excellent post!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Please allow me to add one more point

    THROW YOUT TV OUT OF YOUR HOUSES

    Your kids will end up having to wear glasses from a small age and the amount of garbage they will end up consuming will be irreversible. So please, have some pity on your kids and throw that shaitani box out of your house.

    Many people think that they can watch islamic channels on tv. The so called scholars on tv dont even know the basics of islam. If they did they would reflect on these ahadith and not be on tv.

    There are extremely severe warnings in Ahadith regarding picture making of animate objects (living beings), whether it is drawing by hand or taking pictures with a camera or appearing on tv or watching tv.

    عن نافع أن ابن عمر أخبره أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم قال الذين يصنعون الصور يعذبون يوم القيامة يقال لهم أحيوا ما خلقتم.

    It is narrated on the authority of Ibn Umar (Radhiallahu Anhu) that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “Those who make pictures will be punished on the day of judgment. It will be said to them: Bring to life what you have created!”

    (Hadith: 5501)

    عن مسلم بن صبيح قال كنت مع مسروق في بيت فيه تماثيل مريم فقال مسروق هذا تماثيل كسرى فقلت لا هذا

    تماثيل مريم فقال مسروق أما إني سمعت عبد الله بن مسعود يقول قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم أشد الناس عذابا يوم القيامة المصورون

    It is narrated on the authority of Ibn Mas’ood (Radhiallahu Anhu) that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, “The people who will be most severely punished on the Day of Judgment are those who make pictures (of animate objects)”.

    (Hadith: 5505)

    عن سعيد بن أبي الحسن قال جاء رجل إلى ابن عباس فقال إني رجل أصور هذه الصور فأفتني فيها فقال له ادن مني فدنا منه ثم قال ادن مني فدنا حتى وضع يده على رأسه قال أنبئك بما سمعت من رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول كل مصور في النار يجعل له بكل صورة صورها نفسا فتعذبه في جهنم.

    It is narrated on the authority of Ibn Abbaas (Radiallahu Anhu) that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasalam) said, “Every person who creates pictures of animate objects will be in the fire of Hell. Every picture that he created will be given a life and will punish him in Jahannum”.

    (Hadith: 5506)

    عن النضر بن أنس بن مالك قال كنت جالسا عند ابن عباس فجعل يفتي ولا يقول قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم حتى سأله رجل فقال إني رجل أصور هذه الصور فقال له ابن عباس ادنه فدنا الرجل فقال ابن عباس سمعت رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول من صور صورة في الدنيا كلف أن ينفخ فيها الروح يوم القيامة وليس بنافخ.

    It is narrated on the authority of Ibn Abbaas (Radiallahu Anhu) that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasalam) said, “Whoever produces a picture (of an animate object) in this world will be forced to bring it to life on the Day of Judgment but he will be unable to do so”.

    (Hadith: 5507)

    Ref: Sahih Al Muslim Vol:14 Pg:317-319 ( Darul Ma’rifah)

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